You ask, how is it possible that children are like ships? Well, yes, we explain why: children are like ships, they must go out and experience their own storms … and parents are like a safe harbor, where they can always return to recharge their energy, feel safe and move on later.
The port is a safe place
The port will always be a safe place for your children. Since as long as the ship (your son) is in port (her home), nothing bad can happen to it. It is preparing itself to be able to enter the sea since the destiny of a ship is to be able to overcome the waves of the sea and to be able to travel freely from one place to another. Living his own adventures and avoiding the obstacles that arise. It will choose its own path, and later its own ports.
Over time, the ship will become experienced in the sea (life) because it will learn to navigate better and better, although at first, the first trips can be somewhat complicated. Your child will learn that life is the sea and that in ports, he can always recharge his energy with different people (his loved ones) who will wait for him to be able to hug him when he needs it. But you will always have a preferred port to go to (home with your parents).
We were all born to sail
All people were born to navigate in the sea of life, and although there is protection at home, it is necessary to be able to take our own risks and live the challenges that give us the experience to continue learning and growing.
This path will make your children fill with knowledge and strengths; they will be able to advance thanks to everything they have learned. But for them to be able to achieve this and be successful travelers, you need to let go. That you allow them to start their journey and that whenever they need it, you are in their preferred port, waiting for them with open arms.
It is true that as parents, it is natural to want to keep children in a safe place, but you don’t have to do it forever. When they are old enough, just as birds take flight when they are ready to do so, you will have to allow your children to set sail. The stay in the port is only a preparation for them to be able to sail. You are giving them enough skills so that they can move forward in life as successfully as possible.
What if you don’t want them to sail?
There are times when parents do not want their children to sail and overprotect them from doing so, but that is not good for them. You may be one of the parents who want their children to stay in the port forever, but you can’t do that to them. Even if you think that this way your children will be safe and can be happy, it is not real.
Your children came to this world so that you can raise them as good people so that you can make them good citizens. Even though their smile is your whole life, you cannot smile for them. You are a great pillar for their happiness, but you cannot be happy for your children … They need to experience that emotion and many others in order to mature emotionally and grow as a person.
In order for them to be able to set sail and sail, they need to feel loved and confident. So they can be prepared to start the journey. They will need preparation through values, confidence, virtues, strengths, and good self-esteem.
Let go of the ropes!
Even if it is not easy for you to loosen the ties, it is necessary to do so. You should feel proud to see your child navigate on his own, choosing his course and seeing how his boat is strong and stable, independent, and capable of weathering the storms that come their way. If you achieve that, you will have to be happy because it is thanks to you that your child is prepared to advance in the sea of life, in a healthy and independent way.